Same Sex Sexual Assaults

It is a myth to think that sexual assault only takes place between women and men. An estimated 12,000 men are alleged to have been raped every year and 76,000 are sexually abused or assaulted, which mean there are thousands of men falsely accused. The Crown Prosecution Service are provided with specialist guidance on how to approach cases where the complainant and suspect are of the same sex, as complex issues can arise.  If you are accused of sexually assaulting a member of the same sex then instructing lawyers who have an understanding and awareness of the additional factors that apply in same sex situations or where the complainant is bisexual or trans is essential. 

It cannot be underestimated that members of the LGBTQ+ community face particular difficulties in reporting sexual violence, however cases are reported, and members of the community can be falsely accused and must be defended appropriately taking into account all the factors that make such cases different to those of same sex allegations. 

Evidential Considerations in Sexual Allegations Between Men 

Public Sex Environments 

There are a variety of places where some gay men meet specifically for sex, either anonymously or to meet the same man or group of men and there may be specific issues to consider in relation to this.  All attendees at public sex environments will attend voluntarily, however the nature of the environments can open men up to vulnerabilities, particularly to false allegations being made against them. 

Dark Rooms 

Dark rooms create particular difficulties if anonymous sexual activity is taking place. Men who deliberately enter such rooms may be looking for sexual activity but then go on to say that particular activity that took place was not what they wanted. Identification can also be a real problem in these types of cases.

Online Apps 

There are a number of online apps which are specifically aimed at members of the LGBTQ+ community. In addition to forming friendships and relationships, these apps can extend to arrangements being made for casual sex. Arranging to meet at, or take someone to an unfamiliar place can give one party a degree of power, making the other party vulnerable to allegations. 

Chemsex Party 

Chemsex is the term used to describe sexual activity which occurs when participants are under the influence of drugs taken immediately preceding and/or during sexual activity. Chemsex parties involving large numbers of participants are often advertised via online apps. The drugs most commonly associated with chemsex are crystal methamphetamine (Class A), GHB/GBL (Class C) mephedrone (Class B), cocaine (Class A) and ketamine (Class C). All of these drugs with the exception of ketamine are stimulant drugs in that they typically increase heart rate and blood pressure and trigger feelings of euphoria, but crystal methamphetamine, GHB/GBL and mephedrone also have a common effect of facilitating feelings of sexual arousal. 

These drugs are often taken in combination and are commonly associated with sexual sessions occurring over extended periods of time, sometimes involving significant numbers of sexual partners. There have been an increasing number of reports of rape and/or sexual assaults committed in chemsex settings including of men being deliberately overdosed so they can be raped by one or more men.  

Where allegations are made as a result of sexual encounters at chemsex parties, the questions will arise as to whether the drug use took away a persons capacity to consent. Understanding the law surrounding capacity is extremely important, of course drug use, including alcohol use, does not necessarily prevent a person from engaging in consensual sexual intercourse. 

Sexual Allegations Between Women

Women can be accused of sexual offences against both men and women. Although a women cannot be prosecuted for rape, there are other sexual offences that can apply to women such as sexual assault by penetration and sexual assault. 

It is important in all cases that consideration is given to the individual circumstances of the accused, their background, sexual experiences and preferences. 

Defending Allegations Between Same Sex Couples 

At Eventum Legal we understand the sensitive nature of sexual allegations, in cases where allegations are made between the same sex this can make it more difficult for the accused to reach out for legal advice and representation due to the embarrassment of the situation or the fear of not being properly understood. 

Our team are approachable and all discussions regarding your case are strictly confidential. We offer a tailored approach to all cases, and unique strategies to defending all sexual offence allegations. 

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